Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

Greetings Brave Lovers! Have you or your partner ever uttered this statement? This definitive declaration has been shared in our therapy offices many times and we are bringing it to today's episode to explore the reasons why and the ways to fix this issue. Join hosts Laurie and George as they get clear on what is going on for the sexual withdrawer that doesn't want to have sex. This is often a healthy response to relationship dysfunction but it becomes part of the negative cycle. Our hosts remind listeners that it is okay not to have sex if you don't want to but we need to be able to talk about it. Dive in with us as we share how to construct a healthy conversation, break through the avoidance and reduce the pressure this topic brings up. More pressure equals less sex and both partners need to work together to make interactions safer, better and less tense. George and Laurie's role play will give you the insight you need into your partner's world. Be Brave Lovers!

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Grab your pen and notebook for this, you're going to want ALL the notes from this episode! George and Dr. Laurie answer a mailbag question from a longtime listener about bl*w jobs. More specifically, wanting to know how to talk to their spouse about feeling disappointed that this isn't happening in their sex life. We know that this might be a tense topic for some but our hosts do a fantastic job of equalizing this and addressing what stops oral sex from happening for either partner. Touch, taste, smell and thoughts around the physical aspects of the act are some of the reasons that block or*l sex from being a more regular part of your repertoire. Laurie and George give us some tips and tricks on how to improve basic genital hygiene. Most importantly, these experts discuss the communication issues that present and block partners from having a successful conversation about this topic. As always George reinforces, "if a couple can have a conversation about something then anything is possible." Learn how to work through this delicate conversation with your partner and strengthen the security in your sex life today!
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Welcome Brave Lovers! In this week's episode, Laurie is joined by guest Juliane Maxwald. Juliane is a psychotherapist based in NYC and shares with us great insight from her book; Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy: Exploring the Unconscious Life of Sexuality. Listen in for this great conversation on integrating depth psychology and behavioral therapy. Taking what we know about ourselves and moving it into action! Our therapist listeners will love this episode, but couples alike will be encouraged when Juliane dives into sexual fantasies and ways to discuss them with your partner. For more information on Juliane visit www.julianemaxwald.com and grab a copy of her book. Link included on our instagram!
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Warning this episode is NSFW and you might want to sit down for this one! Is dirty talk part of your love making repertoire? Dirty talk is defined as talking explicitly about sex with your partner. These explicit words run the gamut and can either be a major turn ON or turn OFF. Join our hosts today as they not only give us a list of dirty words to use during sex but discuss how to artfully bring up this HOT topic with your love. This is an area that you want to approach thoughtfully. Moving too fast has the potential to ruin the fun that dirty talk could bring to your sex life. Here are some great questions to ask if you want to test the waters in this arena: "How do you want to talk about our sex?" "Is there a specific name or language you want me to use about your body parts, our moves during lovemaking?" "What ways can we create comfort and also turn up the heat?" Find out how your partner wants to hear it and learn what it does or doesn't do for them. Getting to know your partner better is always a good thing! Keep it hot y'all!
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In today's episode, we are joined by Dr. James Hawkins, certified EFT couples therapist and trainer from The Joshua Center in Arkansas. Listen in as we tackle the tough topic of how to bridge the current political divide in partnerships. We are seeing the effect of division rampant in relationships across the nation and we come together here to discuss why this is happening from an attachment lens and how we can begin to ease the tension. Listeners will take away how the cycle shows up, attachment fears that drive deep seeded disconnection and actionable steps to start finding common ground. Our relationships are a great source of strength and we are far more alike than we are different. We hope you join us today in this important discussion and be brave in beginning to step closer to the ones you feel far away from.

You can find Dr. Hawkins online at dochawklpc.com and on Instagram at @doc_hawk_lpc where he discusses more on these topics!

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