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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey.You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of second-guessing yourself? When you look in the mirror and actually like who you see? Those aren't small wins - they're evidence of your incredible growth, and it's time we celebrate them!Through personal stories and real-life examples, we're diving into the beautiful transformation that happens when we start recognizing our own progress. From being able to spot those red flags quicker (instead of six months down the line!), to actually trusting ourselves more than other people's opinions, to developing that genuine self-love that isn't dependent on anyone else's validation - these are all victories worth celebrating.This conversation isn't just about patting ourselves on the back - it's about acknowledging that every step forward in our healing journey matters. Whether you're just starting out or you're well along your path, there's something powerful about stopping to recognize how far you've come.In this episode, we cover…02:47 Why you should recognize your growth03:31 Embracing your wisdom05:13 How to navigate life's challenges06:30 Understanding self-knowledge08:26 How to build self-love09:42 Having faith beyond relationships19:22 The power of self-likingResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEALSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened?After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no contact, I knew it was time to dive into this topic heart-first. Because let's be honest - whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, or even family, that emotional withdrawal hits different when it comes from someone you truly care about.This isn't just another "move on" conversation. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of how to hold onto your worth when someone's actions (or lack thereof) have you questioning everything. I'm sharing three powerful strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these tough waters.In this episode, we cover…04:31 When you grieve the fantasy of relationships06:35 Your coping toolkit08:52 Coping Strategy 115:57 Coping Strategy 221:46 Coping Strategy 335:41 The No-Contact StrategyResources mentioned in the episode:Listen to Episode 266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a RelationshipListen to Episode 137: 4 Ways to Exit Love DeprivationGet your 90-Day No-Contact KitReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEALSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.' I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively. I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partner, avoiding unhealthy attachments, and building a stronger foundation for your love story. This episode is perfect for hopeless romantics who want to avoid 'struggle love' and genuinely find a fulfilling relationship.In this episode, we cover…00:17 Understanding love addiction and avoidance2:55 Seven benefits of going slow in relationships28:36 The impact of sex and affection34:40 Self-love and building a fulfilling lifeResources mentioned in the episode:Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled. Get 25% off enrollment through November 1st using the code NEWSTUDENT.Enroll in Dating 101 for Love Addicts if you are ready to choose the RIGHT ones to love without losing yourself.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEALSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEALSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal
In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!Resources mentioned in the episode:Register for the BGH Lover Girl's Weekend Workshop on Saturday,, February 8, 2025 at blackgirlsheal.org/eventsReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled. Get 25% off enrollment through November 1st using the code NEWSTUDENTBook a 1:1 private coaching session with Shena until November 2024.Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.Connect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code BGH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/bgh* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/BLACKGIRLSHEALSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools.
Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.