What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to be perfect—and avoid harm—keeps us stuck. Whether it’s in relationships, business, or parenting, the desire to avoid mistakes leads to paralysis. You’ll learn why showing up fully, making mistakes, and being willing to learn from them lets you make a much bigger impact than not showing up at all. This episode will challenge you to break free from perfectionism, start acting from integrity—and get out of the paralyzing grip of fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/410
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409
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408. Creating A New Future: A Conversation with Prentis Hemphill
What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do.You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408
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407. Coaching Hotline: Why We Want Things & Not Forcing It When We Don't
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes.If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407
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406. How to Learn From Your Mistakes
Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your failures so you can make better decisions moving forward. Most of us are terrified of making mistakes, so we avoid risks, which keeps us stuck. But the truth is, mistakes aren’t the problem—it’s how we think about them.I’ll walk you through how to reflect on what went wrong, how to separate yourself from the shame of failure, and how to use that knowledge to make smarter, more confident decisions in the future. You’ll also learn how to stop telling yourself, “I can’t trust myself to make decisions,” and why this thought is holding you back. It’s time to stop avoiding mistakes and start seeing them as opportunities for growth.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/406
About UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
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If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
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*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
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*How can my partner and I communicate better?
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