The Calm Cockpit Podcast

Season 2 Episode 14

 

Grief is an inevitable part of life, but in aviation, it often remains unspoken. Whether it's the sudden loss of a colleague or the death of a loved one, grief can affect focus, decision-making, performance, and well-being in profound ways. In this episode, you'll learn how grief impacts the brain, why healthy compartmentalization is different from emotional suppression, and practical strategies pilots can use to stay grounded during difficult times. You'll also discover tools for managing grief bursts, supporting others through loss, and recognizing when it's time to step back from flying and prioritize healing.

 

Joining us is Nikki Smith, a death doula, grief coach, and host of the podcast Good Grief. Nikki specializes in helping individuals and families navigate end-of-life, loss, and bereavement with compassion and clarity. Together, we explore the unique challenges aviators face when coping with loss, the barriers that often prevent pilots from seeking support, and why acknowledging our mortality can ultimately help us live—and fly—with greater purpose and resilience.

 

Links:

 

Nikki Smith’s Website: Grief coaching, staff support, death doula services, blog, and resources on death and dying 

Good Grief with Nikki the Death Doula: the podcast dedicated to demystifying and de-stigmatizing grief with compassion and humor

 

Journaling Prompts for Pilots: these journaling prompts will help give you a concrete, private, and meaningful way to work through your grief. Provided to us from Nikki, download the PDF and try five minutes of journaling; it's a fantastic method and well worth your time.

Season 2 Bonus Episode

Monday Briefing 11

 

Your flight bag is full of tools to help you fly safely—but what about the tools that help take care of the pilot? In this Monday Briefing, we share three simple apps we think every pilot should have: Water Llama for staying hydrated, MyFitnessPal for understanding how you're fueling your body and brain, and Insight Timer for managing stress and training your nervous system. None are aviation apps, but all can help support better focus, decision-making, and overall performance.

The key isn't perfection—it's consistency. Just as you rely on checklists and instruments in the cockpit, these apps provide objective feedback that makes healthy habits easier to build. Pick one app, try it for a week, and see what you learn. Small daily actions can make a big difference in how you feel—and how you fly.

 

Links:

 

Water Llama: Water tracker app & drink water reminder app

 

My Fitness Pal 280 million users and counting: log food, track macros, identify nutritional content of food, track work outs, etc...

 

Insight Timer: simple and clean interface plus guided meditations, breath work, relaxations, and meditation courses

Season 2 Episode 13

 

Breathing is one of the few systems in the body that operates automatically while also remaining under conscious control, making it a powerful tool for pilot performance and resilience. This episode explores how breathing influences stress, focus, alertness, recovery, and sleep, and why it serves as a bridge between the demands of the external environment and a pilot’s internal state. Listeners will learn how posture and breathing mechanics affect oxygen exchange, why nasal breathing offers important advantages, and how shallow chest breathing can contribute to anxiety and reduced concentration.

 

The episode introduces three practical techniques pilots can use throughout the day: the Physiological Sigh for recovering from startle responses and high-workload moments, Coherent Breathing to improve heart rate variability and nervous system balance, and Triangle Breathing for downshifting after long duty days and preparing for restorative sleep. The conversation also explains the role of heart rate variability (HRV) in resilience and how regular breathing practice can help pilots maintain a healthy window of tolerance, enhance recovery, and improve overall performance. Whether used before a flight, after exercise, or at the end of a demanding day, these simple, evidence-informed practices provide accessible tools for flying smarter and stressing less.

 

Links:

21 Day Hatha Yoga Challenge 2026—Over the course of these 21 mornings, we’ll explore postures, breathwork, and simple awareness practices to reconnect with the body, clear the mind, and establish a steady, supportive rhythm.

 

Five minute breathing exercise from the Huberman lab

 

How to retrain your breathing: from the University College, London hospitals NHS

 

Wim Hoff Method: breathing, cold exposure, and mindset

 

Yoga with Adrienne full playlist of breathing practices

Season 2: Bonus Episode

Monday Briefing 10

 

In this Monday Briefing, you'll discover why self-care is not a luxury or a reward for surviving a stressful week, but the foundation of a healthy, resilient, and meaningful life. You'll learn a practical definition of self-care that goes beyond the stereotypes of the wellness industry and focuses instead on the daily routines that provide maintenance of your body, mind, and emotions.

This episode offers a simple framework for building sustainable habits that support better decision-making, stronger relationships, and safer flying. You'll come away with a clear understanding of why small, consistent actions—like sleep, movement, nourishment, nervous system regulation, and meaningful connection—matter more than grand gestures, along with practical ideas for creating a self-care routine that fits into real life.

Season 2 Episode 12

 

In this episode we sit down with Chris Anderson, a Designated Pilot Examiner, corporate pilot, and 12-time NAFI Master CFI with more than 23,000 flight hours and over 3,500 practical tests to his credit. Drawing on decades of experience from the examiner’s seat, Chris offers an inside look at one of aviation’s greatest challenges: managing the stress and pressure of the check ride.

Together, we explore why check ride anxiety is so universal, why it seems to be increasing among today’s pilots, and how fear, self-doubt, and the pressure to perform can interfere with skills that have already been mastered. Chris dispels common myths about DPEs, explaining that the goal of a practical test is not perfection, but verifying that a pilot can operate safely and exercise sound judgment.

The conversation also dives into the psychology of "choking" under pressure and the importance of resiliency when things do not go exactly as planned. You’ll learn why a brief pause can restore clear thinking, how the nervous system affects performance in the cockpit, and why many pilots discover their best flying only after the fear of failure has passed.

Finally, we share practical tools to help regulate stress before and during a check ride, including breathing techniques, grounding exercises, effective preparation strategies, and the value of guided relaxation. Whether you are preparing for your first practical test or simply want to perform more confidently under pressure, this episode offers reassuring perspectives and actionable skills to help your true abilities shine through.

 

 

Links:

Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking by Malcolm Gladwell

Blink is a book about how we think without thinking, about choices that seem to be made in an instant--in the blink of an eye--that actually aren't as simple as they seem. Why are some people brilliant decision makers, while others are consistently inept? Why do some people follow their instincts and win, while others end up stumbling into error? How do our brains really work--in the office, in the classroom, in the kitchen, and in the bedroom? And why are the best decisions often those that are impossible to explain to others?

 

Crosscheck Mental Performance Training with Tammy Barlette: Elevate your flying, master your mind.

 

Guided Relaxation and Mental Reset Meditations: found on the Bonus Page of the Calm Cockpit Podcast