Episode 311: Understanding Attachment Styles with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
Attachment has become a buzzword in parenting circles—but what does it really mean for your kids and your family? In this episode, we unpack the history of attachment theory, clear up common misconceptions, and share practical ways to think about what your child truly needs.
We’ll cover:
Why “attachment” has resurfaced as such a hot topic.
How attachment impacts early development and later relationships.
The difference between holding information wisely vs. fearfully.
The four styles of attachment—starting with what a secure attachment looks like.
Real-life examples of how parents can unintentionally give fear too much power.
Whether you’ve ever worried about separation anxiety, or just wondered, “Am I doing enough for my child?”—this episode will help you breathe easier and focus on what matters most.
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 310: A Deeper Dive: Understanding Birth Order with Dr. Kevin Leman
Okay you guys, Buckle up! We just interviewed Dr. Kevin Leman, whose work on Birth Order, we have talked about, referenced, more times than we could possibly count. We are so excited about having this conversation with him. We knew without a doubt we’d learn a lot.
We were not expecting to laugh as much as we did. And we were doubled over in some moments. He is so funny, which will make more sense when he talks about his birth order and how that translates to often be true for that particular birth order.
Now stick around to the end, because he threw out some incredible wisdom of what to say to kids: who want everything to be fair, and how to navigate allowance, expectations and bed time unique to birth order. And stick around because he gave David a really hard time about being a 1st born. He teased him hard and so I never said that I was too, I just laughed along! Ya’ll are going to love this episode!
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
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Episode 309: Understanding Birth Order with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
We’re jumping back in with another episode in our Parenting Personalities series, and we are excited about this episode! This episode is on Birth Order, and can I tell you something fun that I love to do. When kids come for their very first visit at Daystar, we call it an assessment. We take kids on a tour around the Daystar house, they get to meet the dogs, we get them a snack, and we sit down to talk. We meet with their parents at a later point. During my time with just the kid, I love to not look at the paperwork, which would inform where they would fall in birth order and try and make a guess.
I don’t want to brag on myself, but I’m going to say that I have a pretty high percentage. I have a strong batting average in that space. I think it’s the reality of us having done this work for a lot of decades. Knowing so many of the things we’re about to talk about with birth order and seeing little lumps as watching where kids may drop some crumbs, that’s really fun to do.
Listen in as we will share two primary things about oldest daughters and oldest sons, children who fall in the middle, and the youngest kids in birth order and all of their coping strategies.
Recommended books to read:
Braver, Stronger, Smarter by: Sissy Goff (For parents with daughters in younger years and elementary grades)
Brave by: Sissy Goff (For parents of daughters in Middle school and High school)
Growth Mindset by: Carol Dweck (For parents of 1st born sons and daughters)
The Gifts of Perfection by: Brene Brown (For parents who are 1st borns)
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 308: Raising Introverted Kids in an Extroverted World and the One Question Every Parent Needs to Ask with Holley Gerth
Holley Gerth is an expert on introversion and extroversion and what a great conversation we had, I loved it! Every bit of it. I feel like I learned so much about myself, about kids that I counsel, it was fascinating! She said one question that I think would be a game changer in understanding kids. So make sure you listen all the way through.
At the very end, she had some incredible ideas for helping introverted kids who might feel a bit overwhelmed in going to church. So hang in there to the very end, this episode is packed full of good stuff!
Questions Holley recommends you ask the family members in your home:
What does happiness feel to you?
What would make this (Christmas) holiday feel happy to you?
What would make this vacation/holiday feel happy to you?
What do you think would make it hardest for you?
What is one thing you want to make sure we do?
What is one thing you’re worried that we may have to do?
How can I keep the stimulation of this event at a manageable level for my kid?
Where is your level at right now, what do you need to feel more comfortable?
How can I love you well right now?
What is one small shift/step that we can make as a family today?
Website: Holleygerth.com/introverts
Holley’s newest Book: 365 Truths for Every Woman’s Heart
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 307: Understanding Extrovert and Introvert with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
We’re so excited about this episode, because we want every kid who may be extroverted or introverted to know that their gifts are amazing and that their limitations are amazing too!
We’re going to talk about 3 things parents of extroverted and introverted girls need to know and 3 things parents of extroverted and introverted boys need to know.
There’s a great book that we both love, The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child, by Marti Olsen Laney. Listen to this description of the differences, introverts generally prefer stimulation in small manageable doses whereas extroverts seek lots of action and excitement. An introvert may pursue topics in depth, while an extrovert may be more oriented toward breadth. An introvert may need time to process his/her emotions before responding. An extrovert is more likely to react in the moment. We’ve seen a lot of evidence of this being true. Another book we love, called Quiet, which also revolutionized my perspective on it, and I recommend it to parents of introverts all the time.
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Welcome to the Raising Boys and Girls Podcast with Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan. In each episode of this podcast, we’ll share some of what we’re learning in the work we do with kids and families on a daily basis at Daystar Counseling Ministries. Our goal is to help you care for the kids in your life with a little more understanding, a little more practical help, and a whole lot of hope. So pull up a chair and join us on this journey of raising boys and girls. Connect with us at raisingboysandgirls.com.
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