81: The Art of Making Friends & How it Helps Us Declutter
Does it sometimes feel impossible to make real friends in adulthood? And what does that have to do with paring down our lives?
As a military wife, I have to build a new community for our family every three years. And I've found that not only do friendships help us enjoy life, but they're a big reason it's easier to live a life with less. When we know we can rely on neighbors and friends to lend us things, come to our rescue when needed, and generally be a support system, then we are less tempted to use physical possessions as a form of security.
In today's episode, I walk you through tactics I use to make new friends wherever we move, and dive into the power of different types of relationships using "bridging" and "bonding."
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Ep 6: Creating Community in Small Spaces
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
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80: Be Rich in What Matters with Julia Ubbenga
When you slow down and consider your life, do you feel rich in what matters? Today's guest, Julia Ubbenga, found herself asking that question years ago, which has led to her influencing thousands of other women to do the same.
In today's episode, we talk about how to free ourselves from comparison, impatience/anger, and exhaustion through the practice of living with less. Julia's spiritual and parental wisdom shines bright, and you'll walk away with the refreshed knowledge that the promises of this world through material possessions are empty and unsatisfying. Instead, we can let go of it all and focus on what truly brings joy.
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JULIA UBBENGA:
Julia's new book: Declutter Your Heart and Your Home
Julia's website: richinwhatmatters.com
Julia's Instagram: @richinwhatmatters
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
For Hers Hair Growth: https://www.forhers.com/paring
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
Only $1.99 per meal with EveryPlate meal service - code paring199: www.everyplate.com/podcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
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79: Decluttering Before You Move (or Mock Move)
There's no motivation to declutter quite like relocating! But where should we start?
In this episode I break down why we should declutter before we move, and 10 categories to focus on in order to avoid taking clutter with you to your new home.
Even if you're not moving, today's episode is a fun one to get ideas for a "mock move," which is to declutter your home *as though* you plan on moving. It's a really helpful lens through which to find some motivation!
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Episode 48: Decluttering Books as a Book Lover
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Electronics Disposal: Call2Recycle or Earth911
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
For Hers Hair Growth: https://www.forhers.com/paring
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
Only $1.99 per meal with EveryPlate meal service - code paring199: www.everyplate.com/podcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
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43:03
78: Addressing the Mental Load of Clutter with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
"What if our partner says they'll do something, but they don't follow through?"
"How do we get our partners to care about all the details of home/family management?"
These are just two of the questions I ask relationship expert and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip on today's episode of Paring Down.
"The mental load" is a big term getting a lot of attention these days because it's an important component to healthy, happy relationships. Clutter can feel like one big "to-do" list, and if we shoulder the responsibility for dealing with it by ourselves, it's recipe for resentment and disconnection in our relationship.
In today's episode, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip shares about her new book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex," coming out April 15th. I think you'll love her positive yet realistic take.
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DR. MORGAN CUTLIP INFORMATION:
Order Dr. Morgan Cutlip's book: "A Better Share" HERE
drmorgancutlip.com
Dr. Morgan Instagram: @drmorgancutlip
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm
For Hers Hair Growth: https://www.forhers.com/paring
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
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77: What If I Regret Getting Rid of It?
What-if items tend to be the biggest culprits of clutter! We are worried we'll need it some day, so we hold on just in case.
In this episode, I walk through 5 helpful ways to combat this battle with "what-if??" so that we can become more discerning about what's worth keeping and what we need to let go.
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Kid Schoolwork Memory Box
PARING DOWN RESOURCES:
Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff
Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)
Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas
Free Gift Request Email Template
Free Know Your Why Worksheet
Free Baby Essentials List
CODES:
50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast
15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING
Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!
10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/hellofreshpodcast
20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING
This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring
40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING
$300 off Air Doctor Pro air purifier: https://airdoctorpro.com/ - Use code PARING
15% off your first order at PACT (sustainable, ethical clothing): https://wearpact.com/ - Use code PARINGDOWN
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About Paring Down: Realistic minimalism, decluttering, & intentional living
If minimalism seems too extreme -- but you know you want to get rid of the mess -- this is the podcast for you.
Feel like you're decluttering alongside your best friend as Shannon Leyko helps you get past those tough mental road blocks that keep you from letting go of what you don't need, and enjoy casual conversations with guests who give practical tips and mindsets for intentional living.
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