Conflict Coach with Dr. Emily Taylor

• E8: How Can You Mend an Estranged Relationship?

  Dr. Emily Taylor helps Morgan sort through the pain of being cut off by her sister and options for moving forward. Family estrangement is incredibly painful and surprisingly common. An estimated one-quarter of all adults in the US are estranged from a close family member. But reconciliation can - and often does - happen. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily offers Morgan a chance to talk through her understanding of why the estrangement has happened and the meaning she’s attached to it. Together they consider what Morgan’s needs are in the relationship with her sister and how she might re-establish contact when her sister refuses to take her calls. In this episode you’ll learn how to: - Begin the process of reconciliation with an estranged family member. - Recognize when you’re making assumptions about what another person’s actions mean. - Identify the interest that’s driving your position in a conflict. - Approach relational repair in smaller, more effective steps. Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily Dr. Karl Pillemer blog post on reconciling after family estrangement: https://www.karlpillemer.com/psychology-today-on-fault-lines-and-family-estrangement/ You might also like this recent episode of Top of Mind with Julie Rose: “The Surprising Truth About Reconciliation After Estrangement” https://www.byuradio.org/top-of-mind-the-surprising-truth-about-reconciliation-after-estrangement CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to The Conflict Coach 00:49 Meet Morgan: Family Text Conflict 03:53 Morgan's Perspective and Struggles 08:18 Exploring Solutions and Reconciliation 12:44 Dr. Emily's Insights on Family Estrangement 16:35 Morgan's Path to Repairing Relationships 26:48 Final Thoughts and Skills Recap

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• E7: Have You Got the Wrong Approach to Resolving Your Conflict?

  Dr. Emily Taylor helps Ann understand why efforts to smooth things over with a sister-in-law aren’t working. There are different ways to go about resolving a conflict and we each have our preferred approach: compete; accommodate; compromise; or collaborate. If you’re stuck in a repetitive conflict, that may be a sign your typical approach isn’t the best fit for the situation. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Ann identify the reasons why a collaborative resolution is not possible in a 20-year conflict she’s had with her sister-in-law. Together they consider how Ann might adjust her expectations for the relationship to protect herself from further harm. In this episode, you will learn how to: · Address your fundamental need to feel safe in a conflicted relationship. · Identify your preferred approach to resolving conflicts and when to adjust course. · Recognize the “schemas” or mental constructs driving your expectations in relationships Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily 00:00 Introduction to the Conflict Coach 00:49 Meet Ann and Her Conflict 01:20 Ann's Strained Relationship with Her Sister-in-Law 04:39 The Impact of Passive Aggression 08:39 Exploring Ann's Approach to Conflict 11:32 Reassessing Relationships and Expectations 15:37 Finding Peace Within the Conflict 27:14 Key Takeaways and Skills 29:29 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview

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• E6: Is Your Conflict Actually an Internal One?

  Dr. Emily Taylor helps a mid-career professional to consider the root of a work conflict. When we’re filled with regret about something we’ve done or said in the past, it can be difficult to see a path forward in conflict. Finding compassion for ourselves can help us see missteps as learning opportunities to do better in the future. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Rachel identify why she feels such a deep sense of self-betrayal over a big decision she made to change careers. Together they consider how addressing her internal conflict may help Rachel resolve problems she’s having with her new boss. In this episode, you will learn how to: - Listen to your gut for insight into what matters most to you. - Look back on your past actions with compassion. - Reframe mistakes or failures as opportunities to do things differently in the future. Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily 00:00 Introduction to The Conflict Coach 00:49 Meet Rachel: Career Change Struggles 04:43 Rachel's Internal Conflict 12:56 Self-Compassion and Reframing 24:18 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

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• E5: What Role Are You Playing in the Conflict?

  Dr. Emily Taylor helps with a conflict over shared space. We all fill different roles in our families – mother, father, sister, brother - but sometimes when we fall back into those roles, we can end up perpetuating patterns that don’t really serve us in conflict. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Tyler identify the roles that are fueling a current conflict around responsibilities for maintaining shared living space. Together they discover that the problem Tyler has been focused on is actually a symptom of something else he can work on to create a lasting solution. In this episode, you will learn how to: - Proactively address friction in situations where conflict is inevitable. - Identify the patterns and roles driving your response to a conflict. - Recognize when to focus on the relationship, rather than the conflict itself. Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily 00:00 Introduction to The Conflict Coach 00:48 Meet Tyler and His Conflict 01:15 Understanding the Shared Space Issues 04:56 Tyler's Family Dynamics 11:11 Exploring Solutions and Communication 14:58 Reflecting on Sibling Relationships 25:18 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

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• E4: Are You Ready to Have That Tough Conversation?

  Dr. Emily Taylor helps a manager prepare to meet with an angry employee. When you feel under attack in a tense meeting, it’s natural to react in ways that make the situation worse. Try practicing your approach to the meeting ahead of time. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily does a series of role-playing exercises to help Elizabeth prepare a script for her next meeting with an employee who has expressed frustration with Elizabeth’s management style. In this episode, you will learn how to: -Rehearse for a tough conversation in a conflict. - Know when to speak and when to listen. - Notice cues in a conflict that signal the other person’s needs. Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily 00:00 Introduction to The Conflict Coach 00:49 Meet Elizabeth: The Conflict at Work 01:16 Elizabeth's Perspective on the Conflict 06:19 Dr. Taylor's Insights on Conflict Resolution 11:23 Role-Playing the Resolution 31:16 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

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