How to Rewire Your Brain; A Neuroscience Hack To Think Better Thoughts
If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, overthinking everything, and dragging around a perfectionist inner critic, this episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.
Hilary Silver breaks down exactly how to rewire your brain—yes, literally—so you can stop the mental spiral and start thinking thoughts that actually serve you. The truth? That nagging voice in your head? You learned it. And now it’s time to unlearn it.
Episode Highlights:
Why 95% of your thinking is subconscious (and why it matters)
How your inner critic formed, and how to shut it down
The 3-step neuroscience-based process to create better thoughts
Why flimsy affirmations don’t work, but powerful declarations do
The role of repetition in changing your brain (hint: neuroplasticity is your superpower)
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] How To Rewire Your Brain To Think Thoughts That Serve You
[01:08] How the Subconscious Shapes Your Beliefs
[03:15] How to Stop Your Self-Sabotage
[04:18] Interrupting Negative Thought Patterns
[05:23] Replace Affirmations with Declarations
[06:27] Train Your Brain with Neuroplasticity
[07:53] Your Daily Journal Practice
[08:15] 3 Steps to Rewire Your Brain
Whether you’re battling self-doubt, perfectionism, or just sick of feeling like your own worst enemy, this is your permission slip to think better, feel better, and be better. No fluff. Just straight-up science-backed self-worth.
✨ Want the daily tool Hilary used to rewire her own brain? The Daily Journal is the how-to for everything she shares here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/
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If the World Feels Like Too Much Right Now, Listen to This
The world feels like a mess—politics, the economy, your dog's surprise barf during Zoom meetings. And while you can’t control any of it, you can control you. In this powerful episode, Hilary breaks down the five mindset shifts that keep you grounded, centered, and sane, no matter how wild life gets.
This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about taking radical responsibility for your thoughts, choices, and energy so you can stop spinning out and start leading your life with confidence and clarity.
Episode Highlights:
Why you're both the problem and the solution (yes, really)
How to stop being the last person you consider in your own damn life
The truth about identity (spoiler: it’s not what your high school yearbook said)
Why self-leadership isn’t selfish, it’s the whole point
How to create unshakable inner peace, no matter what the headlines scream
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why the World Feels Unstable Right Now
[01:14] Meet Hilary Silver
[03:21] Truth #1: You’re the Problem *and* the Solution
[06:00] Truth #2: Yes, the World *Does* Revolve Around You
[07:14] Truth #3: Prioritize Yourself, Always
[09:00] Truth #4: Identity Is a Daily Choice
[11:19] Truth #5: The Outcome You Seek Is Internal
[14:08] The Paradox of Letting Go
[15:01] Be the Constant in an Uncertain World
If you’ve ever said, “I just need things to settle down so I can breathe,” this episode is your wake-up call. You’re the calm. You’re the guarantee. You’re the damn center of your own universe.
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8 Micro Habits of Women Who Always Get What They Want
Ever wonder how some women just always get what they want?
It’s not luck, it’s not hustle, and it’s definitely not because they’re better than you. It’s because they’re moving through the world differently.
Hilary breaks down the 8 micro habits of women who seem to have it all: love, money, success, and opportunities. In this episode, she gives you the cheat codes you can adopt for yourself! From keeping your word (especially to yourself) to protecting your energy like it’s your job, this is your no-BS guide to becoming magnetic to what you want.
We’re talking about unapologetic boundaries, unshakable self-trust, high-vibe thinking, and what it actually means to take radical responsibility for your life. And the final habit? It’s the secret sauce. The one most people miss—but once you get it, everything changes.
Episode Highlights:
Saying no without an apology
Keeping promises (especially the ones you make to yourself)
Radical responsibility (no more waiting to be saved)
Embodying abundance like it’s a lifestyle, not a mantra
And the real magic: acting like you already have it all
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why Some Women Always Get What They Want
01:59 Habit 1: Protect Your Energy
05:34 Habit 2: Speak with Clear Boundaries
07:09 Habit 3: Own Your Worth
10:20 Habit 4: Focus on What You Do Want
13:19 Habit 5: Keep Promises to Yourself
15:38 Habit 6: Radical Self-Responsibility
19:08 Habit 7: Embody Abundance
24:34 Habit 8: Be Her Now
29:09 Practicing Receiving What You Want
30:02 How to Start Getting What You Want Today
Ready to stop spinning in self-doubt and start showing up like the woman who already has what she wants? Then hit play.
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The 5 Truths I’m Teaching My Daughter (That I Had to Learn the Hard Way)
This one’s for every woman who didn’t get the guidance she needed growing up—and every mother who’s trying to do better.
In this bold and deeply personal episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the five lessons she’s deliberately teaching her kids, especially her daughter. These aren’t fluffy Pinterest quotes—these are the things that took Hilary decades to learn the hard way. Now she’s handing them down with intention, clarity, and zero apology.
She’s teaching her daughter to know who she is. To trust herself without second-guessing. To stop asking for permission and start asking for what she needs. To see herself clearly, speak up boldly, and never—ever—abandon herself to make others comfortable.
Episode Highlights:
The truth about self-trust (and why it matters more than approval)
What it looks like to be your own best advocate
How to stop outsourcing your happiness
Why being self-centered is the most responsible thing you can do
How to model the kind of woman you hope your daughter becomes
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[00:33] Meet Hilary Silver
[01:05] Parenting Imperfections
[01:26] Teaching Self-Identity
[04:05] Trusting Inner Wisdom
[05:30] Developing Self-Trust
[07:04] Self-Advocacy
[08:40] Personal Responsibility for Happiness
[10:03] Be the Woman You Want Her to Become
Raising kids or not, these lessons are for every woman who’s done bending, shrinking, and shape-shifting just to keep the peace. You don’t need to ask for permission. You just need to show up for yourself.
👊 Let’s be the kind of women we needed when we were younger. Starting now.
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Psychologist Explains: Why Menopause Isn’t Making You Crazy
Hot flashes aren’t the problem—gaslighting is.
Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn’t your downfall, but your awakening?
In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power.
This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.
Episode Highlights:
Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck
The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman”
What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife
Why losing your cool isn’t the issue—losing yourself is
The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative
[01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health
[02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What’s Really Going On
[05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame
[07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves
[08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous
[11:11] Menopause Isn’t a Crisis—It’s a Revolution
[12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife
💥 Midlife isn’t the end. It’s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play.
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Welcome to the podcast that’s here to flip your world—and your mindset—upside down.
This is The Hilary Silver Podcast, where being self-centered isn’t selfish—it’s the cheat code to getting everything you want in life. Because when YOU are good, everything else falls into place. Your relationships, your confidence, your success, your body, your peace—they all start with you.
So, if you’ve been running yourself ragged trying to be everything for everyone and still wondering why you feel like crap, buckle up. It’s time to step into the role of the main character in your own life.
Hilary’s the straight-talking, script-flipping, former psychotherapist you didn’t know you needed—part brain science, part universal laws, and 100% no bullshit. She’s your bestie with receipts, here to help you stop waiting for permission, start trusting yourself, and finally build a life that feels as good as it looks.
Every week, Hilary dives into the real stuff—confidence, boundaries, aging, relationships, success—all the things that actually matter, without the fluff (or the toxic positivity). Just real talk, hard truths, and tools that work, served up with little spoonfuls of sweetness to help the medicine go down.
New episodes drop every Friday on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
Hit follow, tune in, and let’s make self-centered the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
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