The Baddest Bitch in the Building

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Most women think we need chase people/things. That's because patriarchy has brainwashed us to think we need to prove ourselves in order to affirm our self-worth.

In this episode, I'll get into why the complete opposite is true. In fact, making women think they're the chasers rather than the choosers goes against the matriarchal nature of human beings.

When we sit back and let people prove themselves to us, we trigger a very basic psychological need for validation. I call this being an anus and shifting the onus.

In this episode, I’ll discuss:

Why proving yourself makes you look weak & disposable
How to stop looking desperate
Three psychological strategies to trigger people's need to prove themselves to you
How to use this law in dating, work, business, and life
How to let go of the guilt and doubt holding you back from doing this

✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
3:48 Why proving yourself makes people respect you less
16:00 The law in the wild
19:39 Three ways to trigger people's psychological need to prove themselves
35:42 Exceptions & final thoughts

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.
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Niceness is a way of grooming women for extraction. We're brainwashed into thinking it's more important to be liked than to be respected, and we can only be liked by doing things for others.

Not only does this set you up for failure, it also makes people much less likely to respect you.

Sure, everyone likes the nice girl because they can use her, but no one respects her. And chances are, you're not mean enough.

In this episode, I’ll discuss:

How to earn the respect you deserve
What it means to be mean
How to take a page out of mens' book (after we unstick the pages)
3 mindset shifts to break free from the nice girl conditioning
An example of a spicy personal incident & what the baddies can learn from it
Also what I learned from watching Jersey Shore

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
2:13 The dangers of "nice girl" grooming
8:04 Niceness vs kindness
15:27 How to be mean & gain respect
29:00 Three mindsets every self-respecting woman needs

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.
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Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes.

In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes.

Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go.

Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage.

This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help investigators gather information without triggering defensiveness. The same principles apply in everyday conversations, at work, in dating, and in social settings.

I’ll discuss:

The elicitation technique used by intelligence agencies to gather information
The three-step formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage
The psychology behind mansplaining
How to lower someone’s guard so they reveal more than they intended
How “nice girl” conditioning trains women to give away their power
Why strategic communication is not manipulation

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
3:30 How to use elicitation on mansplainers
9:10 Unlearning “nice girl” grooming
19:07 Join the Patreon
20:54 The psychological formula
33:41 Is this manipulative?

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.
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In this episode, I talk about why so many women feel the need to keep explaining themselves. Over explaining often comes from people pleasing, fear of judgment, and subtle social power dynamics. Once you see the pattern, you start noticing how explaining yourself too much affects confidence, boundaries, and the way people (don't) respect you.

I'll break down the psychology behind over explaining, why women do it, and the mindset shift that helps you stop explaining yourself and start being taken seriously.

This episode is complimentary to the one directly preceding it (Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone).

PS I strongly recommend you listen to this with earphones to get the full experience. You'll see what I mean...because when I told y'all everything up until late 2025 was just a WARM UP!! This is the most intricately produced episode I've ever created. I'm so excited for you to listen.

0:00 Intro
3:32 Why women have a compulsion to over explain
12:52 How over explaining creates an ENERGY VACUUM
17:02 6 ways to stop over explaining yourself
31:43 My final gift to you

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
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We've made it to law #32! Not that it's a particularly important number...I'm just grateful to have all you baddies here <3

Being understood is bloody exhausting. It's also a way we get emotional safety, because we've been brainwashed to believe that our truth is only valid if others understand and accept it. What a load of baloney.

In this episode, we're throwing out this rotten baloney by discussing:
How being understood is a fear-based response
Why the patriarchy benefits from our compulsion to feel understood
How this damages people's perception of us & makes them respect us less
5 ways to unlearn this compulsion
The patriarchy loophole we can exploit when we stop trying to be understood

✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki
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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon
💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays
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