Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast

Have you ever looked at another marriage and thought: I want what they have? In this program, Chip explains that those types of marriages have learned a very important skill. It may be one of the hardest lessons to learn, but if you can do it, you'll radically transform your relationship. Wanna know what it is? Then don’t miss this next message.
How to resolve conflict peaceably:
I. The command – we are to deal with our mates as Christ deals with us. -Colossians 3:13-15
“Bear with one another” – cause of tension
“Forgiving one another” – hurt and/or offense
“Whoever has a complaint” – personalized, ongoing
“Just as the Lord forgave you” – required response
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts” – let God be the umpire
“Called into one body” – priority of unity
“Be thankful” – focus on what we have, not what’s lacking
II. We all respond to “tension” positively or negatively.
III. How to “DIFFUSE” conflict in your marriage
D - DEFINE the problem on your own. -Proverbs 15:14 & 21:2
I - INITIATE a time to talk. -Matthew 5:23-24
F - FOCUS on the “perceived” problem, not the person. -Proverbs 18:19
F - FEEL their pain as though it were your own. -Proverbs 17:17
U - UNCOVER the root problem. -Proverbs 20:5
S - SET things right between you. -James 5:16
E - ESTABLISH a specific action plan that addresses the issue discussed; write it down. -James 1:22-25
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How do you handle conflict? Are you a person who bursts out in anger or are you someone who completely shuts down? In this message, Chip explains why neither of those approaches work well and offers a third option to resolve conflict in marriage. Don't miss how you can radically transform your relationship!
How to resolve conflict peaceably:
I. The command – we are to deal with our mates as Christ deals with us. -Colossians 3:13-15
“Bear with one another” – cause of tension
“Forgiving one another” – hurt and/or offense
“Whoever has a complaint” – personalized, ongoing
“Just as the Lord forgave you” – required response
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts” – let God be the umpire
“Called into one body” – priority of unity
“Be thankful” – focus on what we have, not what’s lacking
II. We all respond to “tension” positively or negatively.
III. How to “DIFFUSE” conflict in your marriage
D - DEFINE the problem on your own. -Proverbs 15:14 & 21:2
I - INITIATE a time to talk. -Matthew 5:23-24
F - FOCUS on the “perceived” problem, not the person. -Proverbs 18:19
F - FEEL their pain as though it were your own. -Proverbs 17:17
U - UNCOVER the root problem. -Proverbs 20:5
S - SET things right between you. -James 5:16
E - ESTABLISH a specific action plan that addresses the issue discussed; write it down. -James 1:22-25
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Message Notes
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I Choose Love Book
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888-333-6003

Stop the small talk. Chip shares how to move beyond logistics to have genuine heart-to-heart conversations with your spouse starting today.
How to effectively communicate:
I. The command – Put on the proper attire -Colossians 3:12
COMPASSION – Empathy to action vs. cynical -Matthew 9:36
KINDNESS – Whatever is helpful, beneficial vs. critical -Jeremiah 9:23-24, John 4
HUMILITY – Their needs first, posture of a servant -Philippians 2:5-11
GENTLENESS – Strength under control, your emotions -Matthew 11:28-30
PATIENCE – Endure with a good attitude -2 Peter 3:8-9
II. Why the “clothing” metaphor is crucial to biblical communication
“Old clothes” must be taken off. -Colossians 3:8-9
The new self requires “new clothes”. -Colossians 3:10-11
The Principle: Who we are determines how we “dress” (communicate from the heart)
III. The problem:
We have settled for techniques and self-help tools to change how we speak, and to modify our emotions and behaviors to improve compatibility; rather than focusing on the deep-rooted transformation of our hearts which empowers us to give the life-giving love of Christ to our mates.
IV. The solution is threefold:
1. Don’t buy the old lies*
I am what I have: Possessions
I am what I accomplish: Performance
I am what others think of me: Popularity
2. Dress appropriately for your mate
A – AFFIRMATION
W – WARMTH
E – ENCOURAGEMENT
3. Have at least 2 “couples conferences” per week**
What are you concerned about?
What do you wish?
What are you willing to do?
*Discover Your True Self book and Affirmation Cards by Chip Ingram and Theresa Ingram.
**Marriage that Works by Chip Ingram.
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I Choose Love Book
"The Five Love Languages" Book by Gary Chapman
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888-333-6003

Struggling to connect with your spouse? Join Chip to learn how communication skills can resolve frustration and reflect God’s love in your marriage.
How to effectively communicate:
I. The command – Put on the proper attire -Colossians 3:12
COMPASSION – Empathy to action vs. cynical -Matthew 9:36
KINDNESS – Whatever is helpful, beneficial vs. critical -Jeremiah 9:23-24, John 4
HUMILITY – Their needs first, posture of a servant -Philippians 2:5-11
GENTLENESS – Strength under control, your emotions -Matthew 11:28-30
PATIENCE – Endure with a good attitude -2 Peter 3:8-9
II. Why the “clothing” metaphor is crucial to biblical communication
“Old clothes” must be taken off. -Colossians 3:8-9
The new self requires “new clothes”. -Colossians 3:10-11
The Principle: Who we are determines how we “dress” (communicate from the heart)
III. The problem:
We have settled for techniques and self-help tools to change how we speak, and to modify our emotions and behaviors to improve compatibility; rather than focusing on the deep-rooted transformation of our hearts which empowers us to give the life-giving love of Christ to our mates.
IV. The solution is threefold:
1. Don’t buy the old lies*
I am what I have: Possessions
I am what I accomplish: Performance
I am what others think of me: Popularity
2. Dress appropriately for your mate
A – AFFIRMATION
W – WARMTH
E – ENCOURAGEMENT
3. Have at least 2 “couples conferences” per week**
What are you concerned about?
What do you wish?
What are you willing to do?
*Discover Your True Self book and Affirmation Cards by Chip Ingram and Theresa Ingram.
**Marriage that Works by Chip Ingram.
Broadcast Resource
Download MP3
Message Notes
Additional Resource Mentions
I Choose Love Book
"The Five Love Languages" Book by Gary Chapman
Connect
888-333-6003
Website
Chip Ingram App
Instagram
Facebook
Twitter
Partner With Us
Donate Online
888-333-6003

Tired of misunderstandings? Chip shares how to move past hurt feelings and start having genuine heart-to-heart conversations with your spouse today.
How to effectively communicate:
I. The command – Put on the proper attire -Colossians 3:12
COMPASSION – Empathy to action vs. cynical -Matthew 9:36
KINDNESS – Whatever is helpful, beneficial vs. critical -Jeremiah 9:23-24, John 4
HUMILITY – Their needs first, posture of a servant -Philippians 2:5-11
GENTLENESS – Strength under control, your emotions -Matthew 11:28-30
PATIENCE – Endure with a good attitude -2 Peter 3:8-9
II. Why the “clothing” metaphor is crucial to biblical communication
“Old clothes” must be taken off. -Colossians 3:8-9
The new self requires “new clothes”. -Colossians 3:10-11
The Principle: Who we are determines how we “dress” (communicate from the heart)
III. The problem:
We have settled for techniques and self-help tools to change how we speak, and to modify our emotions and behaviors to improve compatibility; rather than focusing on the deep-rooted transformation of our hearts which empowers us to give the life-giving love of Christ to our mates.
IV. The solution is threefold:
1. Don’t buy the old lies*
I am what I have: Possessions
I am what I accomplish: Performance
I am what others think of me: Popularity
2. Dress appropriately for your mate
A – AFFIRMATION
W – WARMTH
E – ENCOURAGEMENT
3. Have at least 2 “couples conferences” per week**
What are you concerned about?
What do you wish?
What are you willing to do?
*Discover Your True Self book and Affirmation Cards by Chip Ingram and Theresa Ingram.
**Marriage that Works by Chip Ingram.
Broadcast Resource
Download MP3
Message Notes
Additional Resource Mentions
I Choose Love Book
"The Five Love Languages" Book by Gary Chapman
Connect
888-333-6003
Website
Chip Ingram App
Instagram
Facebook
Twitter
Partner With Us
Donate Online
888-333-6003