I Thought It Would Be Better Than This: Jessica N. Turner on Loss, Identity, and Hope”
Description:
In the summer of 2020, as Jen was beginning to process the loss of her 26-year marriage, there was one person walking her own similar but different journey, and understood many of the feelings of anger, grief, shame, and loss that Jen was just beginning to feel. Someone who knew how that disappointment felt.
Jessica N. Tuner, founder of the popular lifestyle blog The Mom Creative, was a few months ahead of Jen in processing the loss of her 16-year marriage to her husband and father of her three children. Today, Jessica shared with Jen and Amy what the road to recovery has looked like for her, including grieving the end of the life she thought she would have forever, the change of her identity, navigating the messy false-starts, and clawing her way back from what felt like “the floor of hell”. Jessica compiled those hard-fought lessons into a book she’s hoping will be a manifesto of hope to others, called I Thought It Would Be Better Than This: Rise From Disappointment, Regain Control, and Rebuild a Life You Love.
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Thought-provoking Quotes:
Nothing about what I thought my life was going to be, is my life now. Now I feel like I walk around in the world and I feel grief and loss and disappointment and dismay from everybody. It’s amazing how my eyes have opened. It was a big awakening to the loss people are living with everyday.–Jessica N. Turner
When we made the decision to divorce, I felt like I was sitting on the floor of hell, everything was dust, everything was different.–Jessica N. Turner
No matter how devastating the loss, the life you can still rebuild is astonishing. – Jen Hatmaker
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Say Anything film (1989) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098258/
Sixteen Candles film (1984) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088128/
Cameron Crowe - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001081/
John Hughes - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000455/
James Spader - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000652/
Some Kind of Wonderful film (1987) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094006/
I Go Crazy by Flesh for Lulu - https://open.spotify.com/track/2o1AevEuv39qZAVy6k2pmn
The Breakfast Club film (1985) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088847/
Weird Science film (1985) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090305
Ferris Bueller’s Day Off film (1986) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0091042/
Planes, Trains and Automobiles film (1987) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093748/
Uncle Buck film (1989) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098554
Pretty in Pink film (1986) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0091790
Beethoven film (1992) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0103786
I Thought It Would Be Better Than This: Rise From Disappointment, Regain Control, and Rebuild a Life You Love by Jessica Turner - https://amzn.to/40yC1fF
Outlander - https://www.starz.com/us/en/series/outlander/21796
Onsite - https://experienceonsite.com/
ONSITE COURSE [BOOK ORDER BONUS]: What now? Practical steps to navigate disappointment and learn to dream again - https://bit.ly/3DTV4d4
Jen’s Maine MeCamp Bar Harbor Travel Guide - https://jenhatmaker.com/bar-harbor/
Going - https://www.going.com/
Guest’s Links:
Jessica’s website - https://jessicanturner.com/
Jessica’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jessicanturner/
Jessica’s Twitter - https://x.com/jessicanturner
Jessica’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jessicanturner
Jessica’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheMomCreative/
Jessica’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/TheMomCreative
Jessica’s Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/JessicaNTurner/
Connect with Jen!
Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/
Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker
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1:06:17
Midlife Isn’t a Crisis, It’s a Comeback: Maddie Corman on Being Accidentally Brave
Description:
Maddie Corman is a seasoned American actress and playwright that you’ve seen in classic films including Some Kind of Wonderful, Maid in Manhattan, A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood, and our favorite television shows like Law and Order, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.
Most recently, she has put her creative hand to writing and performing in a very raw and vulnerable autobiographical one-woman play called Accidentally Brave, that delves into Maddie's personal journey following the arrest of her husband on child pornography charges in 2015. Today, Maddie shares her story of navigating the aftermath, focusing on themes of resilience, healing, and redefining normalcy when life takes an unforeseen turn.
In this tender and transparent conversation, we discuss:
How Maddie’s life turned upside down after a public personal crisis—and how she found her way back
What led to her decision to write a raw, hilarious, deeply moving one-woman show called Accidentally Brave (now a movie on MAX!)
What she imagined midlife would look like when she was younger versus what it looks like from where she sits today
What it’s like to walk (or sometimes crawl) through shame and loss—and come out with more freedom, more truth, more YOU
Also, how motherhood shifts our perspective in crisis
What practices or people help us stay grounded in the hard moments – Maddie shares some really great resources!
Why midlife is actually the best time to tell your story and start again
Thought-provoking Quotes:
“After a really big trauma that I thought was going to destroy my children, it turns out, they are thriving, and funny, and sensitive, and smart, and caring, and annoying, and they love me, and I drive them crazy, I’m sure. I share that because I feel like that was what saved my life was somebody who had been through something similar saying my kids are going to be okay.” – Maddie Corman
“When you lose your mother, people bring a meatloaf over. But when your husband's arrested and you say ‘I think he's a sex addict and a porn addict,’ there's no meal train that's coming for that.” – Maddie Corman
“I had lived 47 years when this happened and I had never met another person who had gone through anything like this. P.S. It turns out I had. They just didn't share about it.” – Maddie Corman
“You inch your way back to the sunshine and it's so slow. And at the beginning you just think, everything's ruined; I'll just never be happy again so let me cobble together some sad life that just gets me to the finish line. But the truth is, it's stunning how much we can recover.” – Jen Hatmaker
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Some Kind of Wonderful film (1987) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094006/
John Hughes - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000455/?ref_=fn_all_nme_1
Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/
Glennon Doyle - https://momastery.com/
Elizabeth Gilbert - https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/
Accidentally Brave Play - https://www.maddiecorman.com/accidentally-brave
Accidentally Brave on MAX - https://play.max.com/movie/b19ce99f-93c8-4150-ba0d-139e12048efe
Partner Betray Counseling - https://www.maddiecorman.com/partner-betrayal-counseling
Find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Therapist - https://iitap.com/page/TherapistDirectory
Find a 12-Step Program - https://www.aa.org/find-aa
SANON International - https://sanon.org/
AL-ANON Family Groups - https://al-anon.org/
Guest’s Links:
Website - https://www.maddiecorman.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/msmaddiecorman/
Twitter - https://x.com/maddiecorman
Connect with Jen!
Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/
Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker
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1:21:08
March 2025: Amanda Peters’ The Berry Pickers
Description:
This month’s JHBC selection, The Berry Pickers, by Nova Scotian author Amanda Peters has found a particularly receptive audience within book club communities, including the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, for exploring universal human emotions and experiences, and for examining unique cultural perspectives. By masterfully blending her father's compelling stories as a Maine berry picker with her own extensive career in Indigenous governance, The Berry Pickers delves into a unique and original plot surrounding a Mi’kmaw family that grapples with the corrosive effects of guilt and shame, and the possibility of redemption. Peters reveals how the debut novel initially took shape as a short story, but as the beautifully-flawed characters and tendrilled themes began to unfold, the narrative organically expanded into the full-fledged novel that it is now, which has been translated into an impressive 22 languages and has been awarded the Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Fiction.
Thought-provoking Quotes:
I couldn't have written this story when I was 21 because I didn’t have all of the life experience that I have now. – Amanda Peters
Fiction readers are just better people because literature is about the human condition; it helps us develop empathy. – Amanda Peters
I love the writing process. I love creating a story. I love that high you get when you get it just right, when a sentence does exactly what I want it to do. – Amanda Peters
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
The Berry Pickers: A Novel by Amanda Peters - https://amzn.to/4hAYfUM
Waiting for the Long Night Moon: Stories by Amanda Peters - https://amzn.to/4hGNTTw
John Steinbeck books - https://amzn.to/4c1B1pJ
John Steinbeck Center - https://steinbeck.org/
Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Fiction - https://www.ala.org/carnegie-medals/2024-winners
Pearly Everlasting: A Novel by Tammy Armstrong - https://amzn.to/420or5r
All the Young Men by Ruth Coker Burks - https://amzn.to/420oT3D
What Strange Paradise: A novel by Omar El Akkad - https://amzn.to/4kXs8l6
Guest’s Links:
Website - https://amandapetersauthor.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amandapetersauthor/
Twitter - https://x.com/amandapetersaut?lang=en
Connect with Jen!
Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/
Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker
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45:11
Reclaiming Your Power: Moms Demand Action’s Shannon Watts on Living a Life of Passion and Purpose
Description:
Today’s guest, Shannon Watts, has come to be known as a formidable force in the world. As the founder of Moms Demand Action, the largest grassroots movement against gun violence formed after the Sandy Hook school shooting tragedy in 2012, her activism has mobilized millions of moms to successfully pass over 500 gun safety laws. As Amy poignantly stated, Shannon’s work “has legitimately made a tangible impact on the safety of my kids in their classrooms”, demonstrating the profound significance of Shannon’s contributions.
Watts has since shifted her time and attention to empowering women, whom she credits as the real changemakers in any movement. She has founded the Firestarter School, a platform designed to help women reclaim their power and has a forthcoming book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age, releasing in the summer of 2025, which explores the necessary elements needed to ignite a fire in your life and pursue your passion and purpose.
Thought-provoking Quotes:
When you get involved in something like activism, it helps you realize that you have all of this untapped power. And it does give you the audacity to become a firestarter, to prioritize your desires over your obligations. – Shannon Watts
Right out of college, I married my college sweetheart at 23-years-old. By the time I was 29, I had three children. I have a job I don’t love. By my mid-thirties, I realized, this is not the person I would have chosen to be. I was having a difficult time acknowledging that I was living a life that was not true to me. – Shannon Watts
So many women keep collecting new fuel, acquiring new skills, waiting for the other pieces to come together. And we’re prepared when the opportunity presents itself. – Amy Hardin
Society shoulders women with so many burdens so she doesn’t have room to explore her desires. If you’re going to claim space, raise your voice, you are going to get blowback. The direct proportion of how much you can grow your fire corresponds to how much blowback you're willing to withstand. – Shannon Watts
Remind yourself of your wins everyday, whether they’re your wins or wins for what you want to see in the world. Give yourself hope and affirmation. – Shannon Watts
Fighting for your safety and your rights is a form of self-care and a form of protection for other people. – Shannon Watts
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Camino Made (B.T. Harman’s Camino de Santiago pilgrimage company) - https://caminomade.com/
Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age by Shannon Watts - https://amzn.to/4hEYE8K
Fight Like a Mother: How a Grassroots Movement Took on the Gun Lobby and Why Women Will Change the World by Shannon Watts - https://amzn.to/4hFP31t
5 Calls App - https://5calls.org/
Firestarter University - https://shannonwatts.org/firestarter-university/
Guest’s Links:
Website - https://momsdemandaction.org/shannon-watts/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shannonrwatts/
Twitter - https://x.com/shannonrwatts
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/fightlikeamother.org
Substack - https://shannonwatts.substack.com/
Moms Demand Action website - https://momsdemandaction.org/
Moms Demand Action Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/momsdemand
Moms Demand Action Twitter - https://x.com/momsdemand
Moms Demand Action Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MomsDemandAction
Moms Demand Action YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/MomsDemandAction
Connect with Jen!
Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/
Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker
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1:07:55
Title: From Prince to Parenting: Tamron Hall on Style, Stories, and Strength
The best adventures are often found when we embrace curiosity. That’s a lesson that Tamron Hall has learned in her storied career as a cultural icon, Emmy-winning talk show host, and broadcast journalist, as well as in her role as a young parent to a son with a shy but investigative nature to explore the world around him.
In today’s conversation, Tamron talks to Jen and Amy about that curiosity and why it is a trait that should be celebrated and nurtured, both in our children and in ourselves. They talk about the many cultural treasures that already exist right in our own neighborhoods, if we open ourselves up to the beauty of exploring new places and faces.
And, Tamron also shares details with Amy and Jen about her latest labor of love, the children’s book that she just released called Harlem Honey: The Adventures of a Curious Kid, an endearing story inspired by her real-life son and his adventure visiting Harlem's most iconic spots, learning a valuable lesson about the meaning of home.
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Thought-provoking Quotes:
Things that are authentic tend to come easy but that doesn't mean that the process isn’t challenging. – Tarmron Hall
As adults, through our urgency, we can rush our children through great opportunities of curiosity. – Tamron Hall
I was very worried when my son presented as shy. Shy kids, especially boys, can be steeped into tropes and stereotypes of what a shy kid is. It forced me to talk more openly about my own social anxieties. – Tamron Hall
The best of my journey as a reporter was opening my eyes to the cultural difference and nuances of neighborhoods. – Tamron Hall
Storytelling is something that we all have the ability to do. When you tell it from your heart and from an authentic space, it can resonate. It transcends gender, economics. It transcends everything. – Tamron Hall
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Prince - https://www.prince.com/
The Tamron Hall Show - https://tamronhallshow.com/
Jen Hatmaker Gets Real About Healing After Divorce on The Tamron Hall Show - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fkm0RqfRYMI
As the Wicked Watch: The First Jordan Manning Novel by Tamron Hall - https://amzn.to/4hnc8qn
Harlem Honey: The Adventures of a Curious Kid by Tarmron Hall - https://amzn.to/4hJEuea
Deadline: Crime With Tamron Hall - https://www.investigationdiscovery.com/show/deadline-crime-with-tamron-hall-investigation-discovery
The TODAY Show - https://www.today.com/
Sisterwives Tell All - https://www.tlc.com/shows/sister-wives/episodes/sister-wives-tell-all
Ebony Glenn, Illustrator - https://www.ebonyglenn.com/
100 Mighty Dragons All Named Broccoli by David LaRochelle - https://amzn.to/4jOvGFz
Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret by Judy Blume - https://amzn.to/3CCSsjc
Billie Holliday - https://billieholiday.com/
The Apollo Theater - https://www.apollotheater.org/
A Confident Cook: Recipes for Joyous, No-Pressure Fun in the Kitchen by Tamron Hall and Lish - https://amzn.to/3ErTZJq
Building Bridges, Not Walls: Tim Shriver on Dignity that Transcends Disagreements - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/building-bridges-not-walls-tim-shriver-on-dignity-that-transcends-disagreements/
Guest’s Links:
Tamron’s website - https://tamronhallshow.com/
Tamron’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tamronhall
Tamron’s Twitter - https://x.com/tamronhall
Tamron’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TamronHall/
Tamron’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@tamronhall
Tamron’s Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/tamronhallshow
Connect with Jen!
Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/
Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker
Jen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker
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New York Times bestselling author Jen Hatmaker and her longtime friend, Amy Hardin, have arrived in the middle years — and they couldn’t be happier about it.
Each has navigated the ins and outs of life — from careers, to parenting, marriage (and, for Jen, divorce), spiritual evolution, and the joys of being hardcore Gen Xers.
With each weekly episode, Jen and Amy serve as our “everywoman” guides to all the seasons — past, present, and future — as they walk excitedly and tenaciously into the second half of life.
While Jen and Amy have plenty of wisdom to share — and some pretty hilarious stories, too — they don’t claim to know it all. That's why they invite some of the most interesting and accomplished guests to the podcast, bringing insight, expertise, and understanding to the most relevant topics of our time. From Jen and Amy’s compelling conversations with guests to their witty banter (and the occasional eye-rolls at the absurdities of life), they’re here reassure you that you’re not alone in this game of life.
It’s “For the Love” of all that is good, justified, exasperating, exhilarating, real, fun — and so much more.
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