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*Special Announcement*
Dear Shandy will be moderating Amy's Book Launch Event in NYC on May 5th, 2026! For more info visit: https://luma.com/unsingle

It's not every day we bring back a Hot Topic guest, but when Amy Chan writes a new book, YOU BRING HER BACK. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is a relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamp, retreats that apply a scientific, psychological approach to healing heartbreak and rewiring dating patterns.

It has been 4.5 years since we first had Amy on, and now with her new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" (April 28, 2026), she shares the science of rewiring your brain to actually find success in your love life. Today Amy chats your unconscious patterns, how being otherwise "high-achieving" is working against you, and at what leg in the "Dating Funnel" you're getting stuck. We promise you'll never see dating the same way again after hearing Amy's insights. Watch on to get "Unsingle"!

Our first episode with Amy: https://youtu.be/FRXrV7AXHwY?si=NRMBdTNNAKy1PwEg

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The Book, 'Unsingle': ⁠https://missamychan.com/unsingle
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome (Back) Amy Chan!
3:30 - Unconscious Patterns
6:44 - Does Being Otherwise “High-Achieving” Work Against You In Dating?
11:00 - The Dating Funnel
16:16 - Expanding Horizons
25:34 - The Experiment
27:37 - Age Gaps
29:13 - Over-Icking
33:15 - Chemistry
49:14 - Situationships
51:29 - People Pleasing
54:18 - The Grass Is Always Greener
56:39 - What You Can Do Now To Rewire Your Brain
58:52 - Final Takeaways

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you love your husband but find his career boring AF, should you feign interest to spare his feelings, or be 100% honest about your disinterest? Is it acceptable to become close friends with your best friend's partner, even if your best friend doesn't approve? Has Shandy ever dated anyone who brought out the worst in them, and what are their thoughts on "breadcrumbing" in dating? Finally, if your date regularly brings you the ugliest flowers you've ever seen, does that speak to a deeper compatibility and "taste" issue? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

Interested in getting the Shandy take but don't want to appear on the podcast? Email [email protected] for information about Shandy Off The Record sessions.

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
3:17 - Q1: I’m Bored To Tears When My Husband Talks About His Job—AITA?
21:16 - Q2: Can I Be Best Friends With My Best Friend’s Wife?
30:27 - Q3: I’m Still Hung Up On A Girl Who Brought Out The Worst In Me—Help!
43:42 - Q4: My New Flame Is Great But His Taste Is Not—Help!

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Dear Shandy's world-famous recaps are back, this time covering Temptation Island, Season 10 (or Season 2 in the Netflix era)! Today Shandy breaks down the second half of the season, episodes 6-9! #temptationisland #netflix #temptationislandnetflix

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
1:02 - Episode 6
35:28 - Episode 7
48:33 - Episode 8
1:01:15 - Episode 9
1:23:46 - Who We Would Go For

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Dear Shandy's world-famous recaps are back, this time covering Temptation Island, Season 10 (or Season 2 in the Netflix era)! Today Shandy breaks down the first half of the season, episodes 1-5! #temptationisland #netflix #temptationislandnetflix

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
3:22 - Episode 1
20:29 - Episode 2
32:09 - Episode 3
46:55 - Episode 4
1:13:56 - Episode 5
1:29:41 - Predictions
1:30:46 - Who We Would Go For

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Ask and you shall receive! (And better late than never?) By extremely popular demand, Dear Shandy's WORLD-FAMOUS RECAPS are back, this time covering Netflix's Age Of Attraction! Today Shandy breaks down the REUNION!

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
1:49 - Libby & Andrew
8:27 - Vanelle & Jorge
14:59 - Pfeifer & Derrick
17:02 - Theresa & John
34:09 - Leah & Chris
42:06 - Vanessa & Logan
46:15 - Best Dressed
46:36 - Who We Would Go For

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