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• 52. Ask a Man: Dating Rules, Falling in Love, and Finding “The One”

  In this episode, Sam sits down with William(!!!) to answer your burning questions about the male brain in relationships. He’s really smart, so instead of it being cheeky and silly, it’s actually pretty deep. (Okay, it’s also a bit cheeky and silly.) They cover what men are looking for in a partner, expectation-setting in relationships, when to stop seeing other people (not that William has ever seen other people), the work you do on yourself to show up in a healthy relationship, how to find out if a guy is serious about you, bringing up the “official” conversation, how to know if you’re in love, and, perhaps most importantly, how to know if they’re “the one.” Listen to this episode if you want to know how to train your man to surprise you with flowers. Key moments: 05:00 How we met 06:19 The three meetings theory (similar to invisible string) 08:42 “You’re 23, they’re not the one” 12:04 When they start “looking” - from a man’s perspective 14:03 Becoming “ready” to find their person 15:34 Cab light theory vs. he can only be “ready” for the right person 16:22 Tinx’s box theory 18:52 Changing yourself for a man (literally vom) 19:50 William’s rules of dating 21:01 Why he might not text daily - from a man’s perspective 22:31 When you stop seeing other people 26:09 Setting expectations but not communicating them 28:26 What men are looking for in a partner 29:26 The work you do on yourself to show up in a healthy relationship 30:59 Relationship anarchy and expecting your partner to be everything to you (i.e. partner, best friend, therapist, etc.) 32:17 How to live in service without people-pleasing 37:14 How to tell if a guy is serious about you 41:38 How to bring up the “official” or “I love you” conversation 43:09 Saying “I love you” first 44:52 Compromise vs. changing for the other person 45:38 How to know if they’re “the one” 46:53 Is love a product of fate or choice? 48:36 How you know if you’re in love Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 51. How to Count and Track Your Macros and Calorie Intake

  In this episode, Sam gets into the nitty gritty: What are macros? Why do people track them? And how do you even do it? Doesn't it take forever??? (Yes, kinda. Lol.) But the good news is...we're making it easy. Listen to this episode if you've ever been curious about counting your macros but have no idea where to start. Key moments: 00:00:33 Sam is giving Snow White 00:01:51 Sam’s favorite water bottle and lip balm lol 00:04:18 CAPS LOCK turns one!!! + a very special guest 00:05:44 Boyfriend and I went on Becoming You with Suzy Welch! Episode coming soon on her pod 00:06:56 New TV shows Sam and William highly recommend 00:09:30 Trigger warning about food tracking/ED obv - love u 00:10:36 Works for weight loss, weight gain, muscle gain, body recomposition, physical health, etc. 00:12:29 What is bulking? 00:12:46 Health benefits of building skeletal muscle mass 00:16:47 Today’s topic (explanation and preview) 00:21:38 “I’ve tried everything, but I’m not seeing results” (sound familiar???) 00:22:03 Start the episode here if you don’t want any of the chatty fluff lol 00:23:50 Do this BEFORE calculating your calories and macros 00:25:26 Different things you can achieve by setting intentional calorie and macro intake 00:26:31 Calculating your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) 00:28:54 How to determine your BMR/RMR (basal or resting metabolic rate) - AKA how many calories your body requires just to stay alive 00:30:08 The Mifflin-St. Jeor equation for men and women 00:35:25 Adjusting based on your daily activity level (be realistic!!!) 00:41:46 Adjusting your target calorie goal based on your physical goal 00:47:32 How to calculate your macros after determining your calories 00:47:48 What actually are macros? 00:49:08 How much protein you should consume per day 00:53:29 How many carbs you should consume per day 00:54:38 How much fat you should consume per day 00:55:49 How counting your calories and macros can affect your metabolism 01:00:42 How to track your calorie and macro INTAKE throughout the day Get Sam's water tumbler. Get Sam's lip balm. Get Sam's food scale. Join WHOOP. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Resources for this episode can be found here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 50. How to Glow Up Your Mind, Body, and Soul This Winter

  In this episode, Sam walks in crying but leaves laughing—and that's on having an hour of bestie time with you guys! As the temps start to drop, we start to glow down...we're pasty, dry, sick, dull, and things just feel STUCK and BLOCKED and STAGNANT. But that's not who we are. We're hot girls, and we deserve to look and feel that way all year round! So Sam shares 7 steps to glow up your bod, 6 steps to glow up your mind, and 6 steps to glow up your soul this winter. Listen to this episode if you want to spend winter leveling up, but you don't know where to start. The time will pass either way—might as well use it! Key moments: 02:00 Chatty life updates - missed u besties <3 06:19 The tea about glowing up 12:18 How to glow up your body 12:20 Step 1…everyone should do this TODAY 14:23 Step 2…same vibe but more fun lol 15:40 High vs. low maintenance and an 80/20 lifestyle 17:03 Step 3…do this minimum once per week 18:27 Step 4…Sam reveals her secret pro tips for self-tanning (she’s been gatekeeping this for years lol) 21:29 Step 5…Sam’s #1 favorite glow-up workout plan 24:49 Step 6…this tip could (and probably will) change your life 26:54 Step 7…the perfect formula for your closet cleanout 31:12 How to glow up your mind 31:37 Step 1…how to read to get smarter instead of just for entertainment 35:56 Some of Sam’s latest book recs!!! 38:54 Step 2…how to stay up to date with current events (hot girl methodology!) 40:37 Step 3…a slightly more passive way to glow up your mind lol (easy “on ramp” to being smart) 41:55 Step 4…this one should be a no-brainer TBH 42:41 Step 5…how to exercise your brain on a daily basis (in an actually fun way) 43:17 Step 6…seek out learning opportunities (and an awesome idea on how to do it) 45:15 How to glow up your soul 45:26 Step 1…Sam started doing this a few months ago and it changed her life 46:07 Step 2…journal prompts for glowing up 47:23 Step 3…if you only take one thing away from this episode, TAKE THIS 48:37 How to take inventory of (and evaluate) your relationships 49:09 Step 4…how to find and join a community 50:18 Step 5…Sam’s boyfriend’s mantra, which is literally life-changing lol 51:39 Ways to volunteer that aren’t “typical” 53:00 Step 6…GTFO (literally lol) Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 49. Navigating Complicated Family Relationships Ahead of the Holidays

  In this episode, Sam sits down with Ashley Oerman, author of Motherf*cked, to talk about navigating unhealthy, complicated, and even estranged family relationships. They discuss Ashley's relationship with her mom, which has been difficult for as long as she can remember, and dig into some studies, interviews with mental health professionals, and psychological theories (ever heard of secure vs. insecure attachment?). If you can relate to anything in this episode, the bottom line is a three-parter: 1. It's not your fault. 2. You're not alone. 3. You can heal. Listen to this episode if you have a fucked up relationship (relative, friend, or even sometimes partner), and you want to feel seen or find healing. Key moments: 04:20 What a dysfunctional relationship with your mom might look like (Ashley’s personal experience) 07:35 The #1 way it manifested in her adult life 13:11 Realizing her social anxiety and perfectionism were related to her mom 14:36 Resisting (and ultimately accepting) the idea that it was root-cause trauma 15:29 What inspired her to write the book 18:40 How your primary caregiver relationship influences you throughout your life 19:15 Attachment styles and their root causes in parent-child relationships 22:06 Does everything go back to childhood trauma? (Spoiler: Not necessarily!) 22:56 Secure vs. insecure attachment styles 26:26 Insecure attachment in childhood affects your family relationships MORE than your romantic ones 27:08 How our parents can set us up for success vs. screw us up 30:03 Studies that show how our parents continue to influence us as we grow up 30:35 Your closest relationship doesn’t mean it’s your healthiest 31:40 Expectations in messed up parent-child relationships 33:56 Different types of fucked up relationships you could have with your parents/primary caregivers 37:24 You can be close with your parent and it’s still not healthy…ever heard of enmeshment? 38:47 Having empathy for your parent vs. making excuses for them 42:30 What can you do within yourself to navigate these relationships? 43:21 Radical acceptance of these relationships 43:58 How, exactly, to grieve these relationships (even if the other person is still alive) 45:20 How to set boundaries if you suck at setting boundaries 47:32 How do you decide whether low or no contact is right for you? 50:21 Navigating feelings of guilt while setting boundaries 53:05 How talking about it helps 55:11 What it’s like to be on the other side of “doing the work” Preorder Motherf*cked. Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 48. How to Find and Live Your Purpose With Suzy Welch

  In this episode, Sam sits down with Suzy Welch of Becoming You, a bestselling book, podcast, and class at NYU Stern School of Business designed to help you uncover your core values and live your true purpose. They talk about how she developed this methodology, why it works, and how to apply it to your real life (plus, they review Sam's results in real time)! Listen to this episode if you're feeling a bit lost, if you're in transformation, or if you want to lock in on your true purpose. Key moments: 02:24 How TF do you actually live your purpose? 03:15 Being a passive actor in your life (when you feel like life is “happening to you,” and even when it looks perfect from the outside) 04:50 How Becoming You became a class at NYU Stern School of Business 06:51 Anyone can take the class—it’s open to the public! 07:35 Developing her methodology for helping people find their purpose 08:20 Why this method is different, and why it works 08:59 The 3 steps to finding your purpose 11:01 How to determine what you’re good at 11:27 The best aptitude tests available (and how she used them to make her own) 12:02 What actually are values? (No, kindness and honesty aren’t values!) 14:36 How to determine your values 15:02 How she determined which values to include in the methodology 17:10 Realizing she had to revise the methodology to include romantic love 20:05 The power of admitting you were wrong 23:54 How to learn and understand your values in less than 30 minutes 25:30 How she manages to get accurate results in such a short quiz (nerding out on the development process!) 30:16 Large-scale data, trends, and predictions that have emerged from the quiz 30:53 How the Values Bridge explains the Gen Z job crisis 37:09 Sam reacts to her Values Bridge results 43:24 Sam’s Values Bridge results 45:19 Men have THIS value much more than women do 52:09 Can your values change over time, or are they kind of set in stone? 55:02 Living your life in The Three Ds: Default, Deliberation, Design 57:21 Alpha Omega: 3 questions that help you start thinking about your values 59:52 I got my results…now what? Next steps for applying values to your daily decisions and lives Take The Values Bridge online quiz. Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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