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Transforming 'Should' into 'Desire': A Journey to Self-Discovery The word "should" carries significant weight in our lives, often representing obligation and criticism. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the profound impact that this single word can have on our mental and emotional well-being. When we use "should," it typically conveys a sense of duty or correctness, suggesting that there is a right way to do things. This inherent judgment can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, ultimately hindering our personal growth and fulfillment. She shares a relatable story about a listener named Jeanette, who eagerly anticipates Tonya's annual Live Like an Editor workshop as a tool for success. Tonya emphasizes the importance of breaking free from the cycle of "shoulds" that keep us playing small and reflects on her decision to take January for deep reflection before diving into the new year. Tune in to discover strategies for overcoming the pressure of expectations and embracing your true desires. Talking Points: 00:32 - Breaking Free from "Shoulds" 01:56 - Reflecting on the New Year 03:31 - The Concept of "Should Season" 05:09 - Definition of "Should" and Its Implications 08:00 - The Harm of "Should" in Personal Growth 10:24 - Internal "Shoulds" and Self-Criticism 13:31 - The Pressure of Societal Expectations 16:14 - The Paradox of Self-Acceptance 19:25 - The Body Test for True Desires 23:32 - Building a Life Based on True Desires 24:56 - Conclusion: Embracing True Desires Quotes: "It's when shame and guilt becomes your compass instead of desire being your guide." "To argue with reality is to argue with God and you only lose 100% of the time." "The curious paradox is when I accept myself as I am, then I can change." "It's only when I've gotten in touch with my true desires and made those the goals that I have had years where I felt excited, where I felt aligned, where I felt like I was moving towards my own North Star." "If you are building a life off of fear and shame shoulds, you are going to be building a prison for yourself." "Your desires are never wrong. They're simply showing you the way home to yourself." Useful Resources: Click HERE for Five Essential Quesions Click HERE for the FREE Shake-Up List Click HERE to join the Membership Click HERE for a FREE download Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel
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424: 3 Ways I’m Shaking up my Life This Year
The Shake Up List: 99 Daring Ways to Live Life Differently To break free from monotony and stagnation, it is essential to engage in new experiences, meet new people, and expose ourselves to different ideas and activities. This concept is central to the discussion in the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of shaking things up in our lives to foster personal growth and transformation. Tonya explores the theme of breaking free from the monotony of everyday life. She acknowledges the feelings of being in a rut that many women experience, even when life seems perfectly fine on the surface. She emphasizes the importance of shaking things up to step into new possibilities and change and discusses how repetitive routines can solidify a self-image that keeps us stuck. Join Tonya as she invites you to embrace change and discover new ways to invigorate your life. Talking Points: 00:42 - Embracing Change and Possibilities 03:01 - Balancing Routine with New Challenges 04:15 -The Shake Up List 08:00 - The Benefits of Unplugged Time 11:03 - Experimenting with New Approaches 14:08 - Following Curiosity 20:26 - Creative Momentum 22:45 - Empowering Yourself to Shake Things Up Quotes: "Shaking up your life is doing things differently." "I've realized that my best ideas and biggest breakthroughs often come when I'm not actively pursuing them." "Follow your curiosity. Follow what lights you up. Follow those little glimmers." "Something within me, my intuition spoke to me and said, yes, this is the next step for you." "There's nothing like a party to shake up your life." "The truth is we all have the power to shake up our lives at any moment." Useful Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership Click HERE for a FREE download Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click HERE for the FREE Shake Up List Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel
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423: My 2025 Word of the Year
Transform Your Year with Intentional Living Choosing a "Word of the Year" is a powerful practice that can significantly enhance personal development and focus intentions throughout the year. This concept, as discussed in the podcast episode, revolves around selecting a single word that embodies the qualities and aspirations one wishes to cultivate in their life. Host Tonya Leigh reflects on the transformative power of simplifying life to create more meaningful experiences. After feeling overwhelmed by a packed schedule and material possessions, she poses a pivotal question: "What if I could do less but better?" This introspection leads her to select a guiding word for the year that embodies elegance, intentionality, and refined living. Tonya shares her journey of unplugging from work during the holidays, highlighting the importance of renewal and self-care. Join her as she explores the art of pursuing a beautiful life through intentional choices and a focus on quality over quantity. Talking Points: 00:31 - The Transformative Question 02:09 - Reflecting on Last Year 03:03 - Choosing the Word of the Year 04:08 - Importance of Deep Reflection 07:07 - Turning Frustrations into Opportunities 08:02 - The Concept of Essentialism 10:10 - Greg McCowan's Book on Essentialism 12:08 - The Impact of Too Many Choices 15:00 - Behind the Scenes of a Successful Business 17:01 - Applying Essentialism to All Areas of Life 17:55 - Questions for Exploring Essentialism Quotes: "What if I could do less but better?" "I made all of those decisions that led to me being in this moment with a lot of things to get done today." "Last year's frustrations are this year's opportunities." "It isn't about deprivation. It's about elevation. It's the art of elegant elimination." "Luxury is different for all of us. It does not mean designer handbags. It's a feeling." "There's something about this word that has convicted me at the deepest, deepest level." Useful Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership Click HERE for a FREE download Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Click HERE for 2025 Essential Questions Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel
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422: The Champagne Mindset
Looking Back, Living Now, and Celebrating the Future: A New Year’s Practice The "champagne mindset" is a transformative approach to life that encourages individuals to celebrate not only their successes but also the challenges they face. This mindset is rooted in the understanding that both victories and obstacles are essential components of personal growth and resilience. As we welcome the year 2025, Tonya shares her personal New Year's tradition of celebrating intentionally, emphasizing the importance of rewiring our brains to focus on positivity and possibility. She explains how our thoughts shape our focus and, ultimately, our lives. By embracing the champagne mindset, which combines celebration with resilience, listeners are encouraged to seek out extraordinary moments in everyday life and to celebrate both challenges and victories. Tune in to discover how this mindset can shift your perspective and enhance your journey towards your biggest goals. Talking Points: 00:41 - Reflecting on the Past Year 02:06 - Defining the Champagne Mindset 04:14 - Growth Through Challenges 06:00 - Authentic Goals and Self-Image 07:04 - Celebrating the Past 08:09 - Celebrating the Present 09:40 - The Science of Focus and Abundance 12:23 - The Be-Do-Have Model 14:09 - Taking Control of Your Story 15:03 - Celebrating the Future 19:00 - Aligning Actions with Future Success 20:06 - The Champagne Mindset in Practice 21:40 - Writing and Editing Your Life Story Quotes: "I call this the champagne mindset. It is an approach to life that combines celebration with resilience." "To create something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been." "The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you." "You have to take control of your story. You have to take control of your narrative." "The brain has a difficulty distinguishing between vivid imagination and reality." Useful Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership Click HERE for a FREE download Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel
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421: My 2024 Gift to You
Embracing Enoughness: Transforming Your Mindset This Holiday Season An abundant self-image is fundamentally rooted in the belief that one's worth is expansive, regenerative, and independent of external validation or accomplishments. This perspective shifts the focus from a scarcity mindset—where individuals often feel inadequate or insufficient—to an empowering understanding of self-worth that is inherent and limitless. In this special Christmas Day episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh shares her heartfelt reflections on abundance and gratitude. After a morning of journaling, Tonya expresses her desire for every woman to experience the overwhelming joy she felt while making her morning coffee. Instead of a tangible gift, she emphasizes the importance of a mindset shift, proposing that the greatest gift she can offer is an abundant self-image. Join Tonya as she dives into the transformative power of self-perception and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life. Happy holidays! Talking Points: 00:32 - Christmas Day Reflections 01:26 - The Gift of an Abundant Self-Image 02:08 - Understanding Scarcity Mindset 03:01 - Shifting Focus to Abundance 05:57 - Physical Presence and Self-Image 07:02 - Relationships and Boundaries 09:29 - Expressing Needs 11:21 - Holding Multiple Truths 13:27 - Trusting Intuition 14:12 - Taking Risks Without Guarantees 16:09 - Aligning Opportunities with Values 18:38 - Spending with an Abundant Mindset 19:09 - Generosity Without Depletion 20:04 - New Year Wishes Quotes: "If I could walk up to your door, knock on it and give you a box and you open it, this year I would want that gift to be an abundant self image." "To me, they are proving the enoughness that I am wanting, that I am looking for." "An abundant self-image is you having the understanding of what you need and articulating that in a way that others then understand it." "Choosing based on what lights you up. That's such an abundant energy." "To me, it's also about investing in your personal growth without needing to justify every penny." "An abundant self-image is a woman who sees herself as enough, who sees the world as having enough, and who shows up in that state of enoughness." Useful Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership Click HERE for a FREE download Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel
School of Self-Image is the go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives. Join Master Life Coach, Tonya Leigh, as she shares tips, ideas, and inspiring conversations around elevating your mindset, style, and surroundings to create an extraordinary self-image. Episodes are released each Wednesday.
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