Established Family Podcast

If you and your spouse are always arguing, it’s not just a communication problem.In this episode of Marriage Wisdom, we confront the real reason conflict keeps resurfacing in marriages—even when both spouses “know better,” love God, or have tried counseling, books, and tools.Strife is not a personality trait.Contention is not a communication style.And conflict does not come from nowhere.Many marriages are unknowingly governed by a spirit of strife—one that retrains how you think, feel, react, and engage with your spouse long before a single word is spoken.In this episode, we expose 9 common lies about communication and conflict in marriage that quietly keep couples stuck in cycles of chaos, accusation, emotional retaliation, and shutdown. These lies sound reasonable. They often sound spiritual. But left unchallenged, they dismantle covenant from the inside out.You’ll learn:Why “it’s just a communication issue” is one of the most dangerous lies in marriageHow strife disguises itself as personality, upbringing, honesty, or strengthWhy frequency of arguing doesn’t matter nearly as much as accessHow unresolved contention reshapes your nervous system, reactions, and home atmosphereThe biblical difference between peacekeeping and peacemakingHow strife manifests differently in husbands, wives, and the marriage itselfWhy ignoring conflict doesn’t protect your children—it forms themScripture makes it clear: where there is strife, there is disorder—and every evil practice.Strife is not neutral. It disciples your home, shapes your children, and determines the spiritual atmosphere of your marriage.This episode is not about blame.It is about discernment, repentance, and restoration.If you’re ready to stop going in circles and start confronting the real issue, this conversation will bring clarity, conviction, and direction.📖 Scriptures Referenced:Proverbs 29:20Proverbs 18:2Proverbs 24:121 Corinthians 3:3Proverbs 10:12Galatians 5:19–21Proverbs 26:21Proverbs 15:18Proverbs 22:10Proverbs 27:15–16🛠 Ready for Real Transformation?Established Family Counseling offers structured 4-week and 8-week programs designed to confront unhealthy cycles, restore order, and help you walk out God’s design for marriage—whether individually or together with your spouse.Counseling with Derek & Jordan is reserved exclusively for 8-week clients under care.Every counselor on the Established Family team is personally discipled, trained, and spiritually aligned to provide true accountability—not surface-level advice.👉 Register here: https://www.establishedfamily.com/program

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Most spouses think rejection is something that happened to them.
Scripture reveals something far more confronting: rejection is something we come into agreement with. In this teaching, we expose how deception always precedes rejection—and why living from rejection reshapes your identity, your decisions, and ultimately the fruit of your marriage.
Rejection does not stay emotional. It moves into authority.It changes how you reason, how you desire, how you protect yourself, and how you relate to God and your spouse. This message walks through:
• Why rejection creates an orphan mindset in marriage
• How deception opens legal access to fear, dread, and disorder
• The difference between worldly wisdom and wisdom from above
• Why self-protection kills spiritual authority and fruit
• How the fear of the Lord restores identity, order, and flow
• Why wisdom—not coping—is the requirement for marital healing
You will also hear a direct biblical confrontation from:
Ephesians 4, Proverbs 10, Proverbs 13, Proverbs 24, James 1, James 3, and Proverbs 1–3.
If you are a spouse standing for growth, healing, or restoration—this is not a message about feelings. This is a message about alignment, identity, and agreement. Rejection is not your end.
But agreement with it will be.
Wisdom is calling.
Do not ignore her voice.