Established Family Podcast

In this episode, we confront a hard truth the Church has avoided:your marriage will not heal, grow, or last unless its Kingdom mission is restored.Jesus said:“He who does not gather with Me scatters.” — Luke 11:23In this teaching, we break down why Kingdom mission in marriage is rooted in three non-negotiables:Glory — the weight of God’s presencAuthority — the right to rule under His presenceOffice — the role and responsibility you are stewardingWithout these, marriages exhaust themselves under responsibility, drift into resentment, and blame God, the church, or their spouse for being out of position.In this episode, you’ll learn:1) Why responsibility without God’s glory leads to burnout and division2) Why healing often follows mission—not the other way around3) How glory (kavod) empowers responsibility (massa)4) Why many marriages feel spiritually alive but relationally stuck5) How authority and office are lost through fear, offense, and poor stewardship6) What it means to be a glorified husband and a glorified wifeScripture Referenced:Luke 11:23Joshua 24:151 Kings 18:21Deuteronomy 30:19Nehemiah 4:17Genesis 1:26–28Psalm 8:4–6Luke 10:19Isaiah 6:1–8Exodus 24 & 40John 1:14

In today’s episode, Derek exposes one of the deepest spiritual roots behind marital destruction: the false oaths, internal vows, and unholy agreements spouses make during pain, betrayal, fear, and exhaustion.This message walks you through the biblical difference between promises, oaths, vows, and agreements—and how violating the order of God leaves marriages spiritually bound, oppressed, and disconnected from the hope that anchors the soul.If your marriage feels stuck, hardened, confused, or spiritually tormented, this episode will show you why—and how to return to God’s promises over your marriage and bloodline.In this episode:• Why God forbids humans from making oaths• How spouses unknowingly bind themselves with internal vows• 9 categories of false oaths that destroy a marriage• How the enemy claims “legal access” through agreements• The biblical pattern: Promises → Oaths → Vows → Agreements• How to dissolve false covenants and return to God’s design• Why many spouses lack hope as an anchor to their soul• How to realign with God’s promise over your family and lineage

A marriage without true repentance will always fail.In this episode, Derek shares a raw and redemptive testimony about how repentance became the turning point that shifted everything in their marriage. Before there was restoration… before there was healing… there had to be a confrontation of pride, blindness, and spiritual apathy.God doesn’t just heal what’s broken — He exposes what’s unrepentant. And when repentance becomes true, it’s not quiet, hidden, or comfortable. It’s an outward expression that transforms hearts, marriages, and generations.If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or spiritually dull — this message will awaken something deep within you. Because repentance isn’t about guilt or shame… it’s about returning to the Presence that restores all things.

Your marriage doesn’t just need better communication—it needs deliverance.This isn’t about personality differences or unmet expectations… this is about spiritual realities that still have legal access to your marriage, your mind, and your emotions.In this episode, Derek exposes why so many Christian spouses are saved but still bound, and how unhealed areas of the soul (mind, will, emotions, and moral capacity) still produce fruit in the marriage today.You’ll learn what it means to walk in sanctification, not just salvation, and how to close every “topos”—every foothold, legal access, and spiritual ground—that the enemy has occupied.🔥 In This Episode:The difference between salvation, sanctification, and deliveranceWhy “psychology” can’t fix what’s spiritualLevels of affliction vs. levels of gloryThe truth about spiritual footholds (“topos”) in Ephesians 4:2What happens when an unhealed soul governs a marriageHow the Gospel restores the original design of your marriage

In this episode, Derek and Jordan go deep into what it means to prepare for your new marriage.Most spouses interpret distance, silence, or delay as God being against them—but few recognize that He’s actually reordering them.Before restoration comes reformation. Before covenant is rebuilt, the individuals within it must be remade.This conversation walks through three critical areas God refines before He restores:1️⃣ Preparing Your Emotions — Learning to discern between conviction, pain, and pressure. Training your emotions to submit to truth before the next attack ever comes.2️⃣ Preparing Your Relationships — Understanding how God reorders access and connection. Some people were for your season, but not your assignment. Learn how to discern covenant, seasonal, and prophetic relationships that align with restoration.3️⃣ Preparing Your Intercession — Moving from emotional prayer to spiritual governance. Intercession isn’t performance—it’s representation. Standing before the throne room of grace on behalf of your spouse and family, with the posture of a reconciler, not a reactor.This episode carries deep revelation for any husband or wife walking through the process of becoming.You are on assignment.You are being prepared.Don’t mistake the process for punishment—this is God’s mercy at work.Scriptures referenced: Matthew 15:1–15, Matthew 25:14–30, John 15:2–6, Luke 13:6–9, Proverbs 24:30–34, Romans 1:21–25, Ephesians 4:19, Exodus 32:32, Romans 9:1–5.